I came to the military lifestyle without a clue as to what to expect. The closest thing that could help get an idea, aside from asking my husband a million and one questions, was Lifetime’s “Army Wives” and even the show isn’t that accurate. I relied heavily on books, social networks and websites solely dedicated to wives, fiancées and girlfriends of those in the military.
We now live in a day and age where by just goggling things we can find mostly anything and everything. To say the least, 5 years ago that wasn’t the case when I got engaged to my husband. Yes, Internet was out and people where becoming more and more dependable on it, but it wasn’t what it is today. There was no such thing as Facebook pages or groups. Blogs weren’t considered “cool” and word-of-mouth was still something we heavily relied on and to say that this was only 5 years ago.
I tried to ask as many questions as I could to my husband. Questions about the military, the lifestyle, where we would live, if I would be able to get a job and so many more that in the end I would forget the answers because of the vast information I was getting. To say the least, my husband could only answer so much because since joining the military it was just him, so, of course he only knew what he could do.
Google and Amazon.com became my best friends for getting the information I needed. I began to join those websites for wives, fiancées and girlfriends of someone in the military. The closer it got our wedding the more nervous I was getting, I felt like I wasn’t quite prepared for this military lifestyle. I felt like I was back in college and I was getting ready for my final but I just needed a little more time with my notes, only difference was that this was real life and not a test.
We got married and headed off to our new duty station. I was pretty much confused for the first couple of months after we got married, but was relieved that I wasn’t as “dazed & confused” as I could’ve been. I thanked the research I did, books I read and the ability to not be afraid to ask the silliest questions.
This life shouldn’t intimidate you, no one is ever prepared for this lifestyle and no one is ever going to be an expert.